Hi,
I can only speak from experience. It's quite easy for me as I'm a 4th born-in, well educated, immediate as well as extended family being very studious individuals, therefore, we have quite the range of your JW type in our family: From the hardline 'orthodox JW' to the 'extremely relaxed JW'. I'm somewhere in the middle of the two extremes.
It's very clear in my mind that this is just a religion, ever changing, with plenty of flaws due to our imperfection. I treat it the same as if in a food buffet, plenty of stuff I like and really enjoy, some few things and individuals I couldn't care any less about.
Life goes on and, as a relaxed JW, mine is a very good one thus far. If there's a Supreme being that really cares about insignificant me, which I seriously doubt, and rules that the way I lead my life is no good, then, whatever. Good thing that our belief goes that it'll be just 'lights out' for punishment and not really a hell to pay.
Ever since the 1975 fiasco, I've never really paid much attention to the 'end is near' crap. I shall continue on living my life as I see fit and let the cards fall where they may.
GC